We don't recommend you to procrastinate the moment when you'll be able to talk in real-time mode. Only hearing or seeing another person you can touch his inner world, feel the mood, dive into emotions and understand what he really wanted to tell you with his words.
It's unthinkable to refuse a miracle of real communication.
It seems that one full journey through this rail itself is a challenge, however people who are doing this can easily make the balance between work and leisure activities like video chatting with local boys and girls from Russia.
There are three main reasons for a fear of speaking foreign language. Any person can master the basics of foreign language. And it doesn't matter, whether they were scolded for incorrectly learned lesson or for some other mistakes.
You'll help a lady obtain necessary knowledge and skills being attentive to her. Praise her even for taking some steps on her way to overcoming language barrier. And some people were ridiculed by their peers in their childhood.
Then, sooner or later, you'll want to talk to her in person (over the telephone, via Skype, using some webchats, webcams or other technical devices that let you see and hear your conversation partner). Some men don't like writing letters and so they try to exchange numbers with ladies as soon as possible and get to talking.
How to choose moment to start communicating with a lady in a real-time mode? There's nothing wrong with it as it seems from the first sight.
But if you look deeper you'll see that this approach has a lot of minuses. Secondly, without having enough information about each other conversation partners may fail to find common themes for discussion.