But it’s entirely different when, for some reason, you discover When you discover your parents strongly disapprove of your bf/gf, your first inclination will be to pull away from them and continue your dating relationship behind their back. Never secretly date someone your parents don’t want you to date.
Having secrets and lies between you and your parents ruins trust and causes needless stress and drama which will affect your self-esteem, grades, and even your other friends.
The fact of the matter is most people spend very little time researching and getting to know the other person before they start datingthey just jump into the relationship. They have fears of unwanted pregnancy, date rape, drug use, physical abuse, or simply having their children get a needless and unnecessary broken heart.
Carolyn commented she first had to try and figure out why her parents didn’t like her boyfriend.
The truth is, when it comes to dating and relating, there really are very few black and white answers.
Many times the answers lie in the gray areas, and in the deeper questions. If you’re afraid this new romance will have a major effect on the relationship you have with your friend, you may feel confused, disappointed and frustrated. Figuring out where the dislike is coming from is a good place to start and it can help you know how to pray for the situation and respond to it.
Most parents will appreciate a bf/gf who wants to make the effort to get along with them.