All four of our top sites used some sort of algorithm to match you with people you should be compatible with and interested in — and keep those “automatic nos” out of your feed.
This is the real heart of online dating (anyone could sift through profiles on their own) and some sites do it better than others.
We turned to Alexa, a web-traffic analytics company, to better assess how many people are on each site clicking around, and culled those with below-average numbers: fewer than a million active users in the US. We can assume those numbers apply to most online dating sites.
The problem is mobile users aren’t reflected in Alexa data — which means a dating site like Zoosk, with half as many active desktop users as our top picks, but way more app downloads, could have been left out.) Be Social network, Blendr, Chemistry.com, Cupid.com, network, Date2020, Fidelity Dating, Friend Finder network, Grouper, How About We, Jaumo, Lava Life, Meet Me, Meet Mindful, Mesh, Mingle2, Once, Spark.com, Speed Date.com, Tastebuds.fm, Tawkify, The Heart Market, Twoo, Zoosk Our finalists are all likely names you recognize — Ok Cupid, Match.com, e Harmony, and Plenty of Fish — and our tester tried them all.
But of course, without your voice, it’s hard for your personality to shine through in your profile.
The best sites strike a balance between both approaches.
Well, not every kind: We excluded sites that catered specifically to how someone looked or to “unscrupulous” relationships (think Ashley Madison).