A Christian woman should let the man take the initiative as the leader God made him to be.
We may want to volunteer for a cause we care about or join other groups, being sure that we are doing it because we enjoy it, not just because we want to meet as many potential mates as possible.
Some people prefer to meet their spouse through friends, family, or in a chance meeting out in the world, and many do just that.
Once we have these common struggles sorted out, we can begin to pursue a woman, or be pursued by a man, with an eye towards marriage.
As in all decisions, we should ask God to direct us clearly.
Back then, families helped young women and men meet and become engaged and often chose their children’s mates for them.