One of the most important things you can leam from nurturing an authentic and loving relationship with yourself is acceptance.
At the root of unconditional love is the perception that whatever your partner does, says, feels or expresses will be received in an atmosphere free from condemnation.
This paradigm presumes that we are incomplete and require a partner to make us whole, and feeds into the "hole in the soul syndrome," a core sense of insufficiency leading to feelings of emptiness, neediness and self-reproach.
The irony is that the very sense of neediness that drives us to seek out love is exactly what will impede love from blossoming.
If you are stingy with yourself, be it in terms of time, money or attention, you will most likely attract a lover who lacks generosity toward you.