She suggests parents sit down with their pre-teens to discuss the issue calmly, before it even comes up.
This conversation will help you figure out if your child is ready.
What this means is understanding who you are, what you like and dislike, what you value and believe in, and more, so that you can relate to someone else in a healthier way and find someone else who truly complements who you are as an individual.
People who date before they have had enough personal growth often get talked into feelings and actions that are not really true to who they are (because they are not sure of who they are), and they may end up in situations where both people feel as if they are really in love, but are actually just keeping the other from growing and maturing.
Last week the 12 year old asked when she can start dating.