Allow him to simmer, wondering what you're doing." Laura,* 21, won over her boyfriend using this trick.
"Andrew looks like Brad Pitt's little brother, and I knew he was used to women being at his beck and call," she says. But I'm all ears now.' He felt lucky to have caught up with me." How everybody wins: Men, says Argov, equate longing with love.
To really work the strategy, end dates and phone calls first, and cryptically mention your other plans with little or no elaboration.
He quickly surprised her with tickets to the theater and a bouquet of roses for the following Sunday.
"Being booked was all it took to jostle him into action," says Georgia.
Absence creates anticipation and a feeling of "If I don't see her now, I'll die." When he calls, "let your voice mail pick up now and then," says Sherry Argov, author of .
"It shows him that you're worth the wait and effort.
A guy who's guaranteed to focus on hearing you out.