Define dating exclusively


For many men, it represents a massive, possibly undesirable, change in the nature of your relationship with this person. As much as it would be nice to have a handy rule of thumb like “three weeks after you start sleeping together” or a concrete date, every relationship is different and, as a result, the timing will be different as well.

You have to wonder if the guy really asleep or was just banging someone else.

But when I imagine myself in my cousin’s situation, I think I’d still be bummed if I didn’t hang with the guy while we were “exclusively hooking up.” In fact, I think I’d be MORE bummed than I would be if we were casual. We aren’t dating; we’re just exclusively hooking up.

But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re not in contact with them.

If you’re talking every single day on the phone or over social media between the moments when your schedules line up, it moves the timeline for the DTR conversation slightly to “sooner”.

When you’re seeing each other once or twice a week at the most – usually just on weekends – then there is a lower level of implied intimacy and emotional investment than a couple that sees each other three to four times a week.