The insidious message of purity culture still clings fast in my marriage, and I often put it at the root of some of my deepest anxieties and fears.
Recently, while telling a friend from church about a disagreement with my husband, she suggested having more sex. In church, being overweight feels like a sin.] And I am not the only one working out the threads of this Gordian knot.
That's something that's beyond my control and it's disappointing at times...
." On November 20, 2005 Harris gave a message to the church at which he is Senior Pastor, titled "Courtship, Schmourtship: What Really Matters in Relationships." In this message Harris acknowledged problems with how the singles related in his church.
In doing so, he argues, people put up a façade in an attempt to appear to be what the other person wants, and this hampers the "getting to know you" part of dating.