If the only physical contact that you have with the person to whom you're married on a typical day is a quick peck on the cheek before work or bed—it's time to get your act together.
That doesn't have to mean upping your game to wild bedroom acrobatics, though, try simply hugging for thirty seconds, says Kerner.
Find a free weekend this month, drop the typical Saturday chores-and-errands dance, and plan something that you'll love doing together.
Maybe it's as involved as a weekend B&B trip, or maybe it's as simple as spending an afternoon playing tourist in your hometown—say, by checking out the new neighborhood sushi place or visiting a nearby historical site.
Surprise him with the list—leave it on his bed, email it to him, sit down after dinner and read it together.