And if I don't pay attention to the people making me feel uncomfortable, I'm looked upon as too picky and ungrateful, when really, I just want to be respected and treated like a human being.
In short, I feel like I can't win when it comes to dating, and I've become a little bitter and jaded about it.
I do like talking to people and meeting people at bars, and I don't go in thinking that I'm going to be looked upon as the uglier accessory to make my pretty friend look better, someone to overlook and snub -- like I'm a guard dog to "protect" her.
Dating fat grils
I don't generally look for that sort of experience, and I think it's kind of gross that I'm expected to "suck it up" because "that's what people do at bars" and "you're not in any position to pick and choose."And a lot of what I'm talking about, especially women being bought drinks and then expected to go home with the drink-buyer, is universal to all women.
It's not just a fat woman thing, though I feel like there is more of a "take what you get and like it" vibe around it for fat and unattractive women.
Now, in my 30s, I realize that dating really is like an episode of "Lowered Expectations" -- because when you don't look like a poster child for society's idea of beauty, it's like trying to hit a dartboard blindfolded.
I've never been a pretty girl, and I'm not a pretty woman. I don't have perfect bouncy hair and I don't have even features or a beautiful face.
Some have self-confidence issues that are proven over and over when they're laughed at for trying to date or told that being whistled at on the street is the best they're going to get. I guess most of the time, according to society, we're not. Accept most people think of you dating and laugh at the idea.