“We study predominately by looking at patterns of behavior,” says Lewis.We have to acknowledge the unfortunate truth that black women get a bad rap in America.It’s not fair, it’s extra work, but it is what it is, and the only way to improve our station is to acknowledge it and work to improve it.
Here’s how: Say you peep a guy’s profile and you notice he’s holding a gigantic bass on a boat in Lake Michigan. You said something cute and coy, and that guy just might smile, look at your profile, and respond.
You message him and say something smart-assy, like, ” I see you like to fish. The ball is now in his court, and he is free to pursue.
Lin said that online, the numbers work to a black woman’s favor because there’s more men signed up for dating services than women. I’m hopeful that what we’ve been seeing will change with micro-interactions,” says Lin.
By “micro-interactions” Lin means that black women moving individually, one interaction at a time, will eventually change the tide. “Look at it from an inspirational standpoint: Some men might be interested if you make the first move.” He believes that black women can overcome their obstacles in online dating by not expecting men to initiate interaction.
I decided to go to the source and got in touch with two social scientists who authored two recent studies: Kevin Lewis, of the University of San Diego and Ken-Hou Lin of the University of Massachusetts.