“The idea that you could play out your kinky fantasies and ideas with these strangers across the country who you’d never met, and have them be excited and responsive and engaged, was incredibly exciting to people.” When I surveyed my friends to see if they had had cybersex in AOL chatrooms, nearly all of them remembered having similar experiences, usually with friends.
“My cousins and I would huddle together in front of one of their slim-for-the-time Dell monitors ‘playing’ online checkers (or something) and engaging with people who were probably (but maybe not?
) a lot older than us,” recalled Jenny Kutner, an assistant editor who writes about sex and dating for Salon.
“I do remember someone once telling me he wanted me to shove marshmallows up by butt while I touched myself,” she told me in a follow-up email, “and I felt a little bit confused about whether this was ‘normal’ or not.” Eventually, though, curiosity would take hold, and those who had started venturing into chatrooms playfully started ducking in in earnest—and alone.
And to be honest, I don’t think he knew what he was saying either.